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Social and Emotional Learning

What is it all about?


Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) is the process through which children and adults acquire and effectively apply the knowledge, attitudes, and skills necessary to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions. - CASEL

Default to Happy SEL coaching and consulting provides children with the opportunity to:

  • Recognize, understand and manage their own emotions

  • Recognize, understand and influence the emotions of others in a positive manner

  • Develop conflict-resolution skills and encourage open communication

  • Learn cooperation and teamwork

  • Increase self-confidence and resiliency

  • Foster a sense of belonging

  • Enhance academic skills

  • Reduce stress and anxiety

  • Learn strategies in self-awareness and mindfulness

  • Build critical thinking skills: practice media literacy and explore social issues

  • Build compassion and humility in life

  • Build social confidence, empathy, and awareness in implicit biases

In practical terms, Social Emotional Learning or SEL is the process through which children learn and practice important life skills that are needed for success in college, professional careers and life in general. These individual skills, normally known as social and emotional competencies, include recognizing and managing our emotions, developing caring and concern for others, establishing positive relationships, and responsible decision making. These skills also include cultural competence and understanding, social justice, and social responsibility.

Default to Happy chooses to take the approach of social and emotional learning as the pathway for children and teens to develop emotional intelligence into adulthood. This means being aware that emotions can drive their behavior and impact people (positively and negatively), and learning how to manage those emotions – both their own and others – especially when faced with challenges and barriers.

Default to Happy develops programs and delivers keynotes, training, coaching and group sessions on the topic of social and emotional learning for home and educational settings.


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SEL Consulting Services


There are a variety of frameworks that specifically address the widely recognized core constructs of Social and Emotional Learning. Examples include:

Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning (CASEL) 5 Core Competencies

Turnaround for Children Building Blocks for Learning

Six Seconds EQ model 

Character Lab Character Strengths

Search Institute Developmental Assets Framework 


EDUCATIONAL PROGRAMS & COMPANIES

School and district leaders are looking for Social and Emotional Learning programs that have been appropriately designed and aligned for all students. They need to get Social and Emotional Learning right the first time around because their students deserve it.

As a SEL Content Expert & Consultant with over 12 years experience —I offer services in both the digital and print educational arenas. If you are a company or program interested in or currently adding Social and Emotional Learning to your inventory of offerings to schools and districts — then you are well aware of the competitive space of SEL. Social and Emotional Learning is more than three letters behind the name of the most recent student or teacher edition of a manual or program. If your team is serious about becoming and staying relevant in SEL, a SEL Content Expert & Consultant is a critical element of the entire process of program/curriculum development and implementation. In today’s market, you get one chance to convince your client that you understand and complement the growing number of SEL frameworks.

It is important that you as a company, vendor, or program — align yourself to the common or shared language of SEL to create, discuss, and leverage your product offerings to school and district leaders.

My expertise is in assisting you in providing direct support services in SEL content writing, overseeing product development, and program management of the social & emotional components within your product and curriculum offerings. This includes consideration for all stakeholders including students, teachers, families and the community.

CONSULTATION SERVICES INCLUDE:

  • Needs Assessment. Including analysis of company products, and an assessment of current social and emotional competency of product offerings.

  • MTSS/CPST/RtI. Align research-based SEL practices to promote social and emotional development of all students through prevention and/or interventions of barriers that interfere with the learning process through program and curriculum design.

  • SEL Curriculum Content Writing. Expert level content writing around skills and lessons, the integration of curricula and classroom practices, and an environment of safety, respect, care, and inclusion in programs and curriculum which model SEL values.

  • Program Management. Collect, analyze and monitor data for program efficacy and efficiency. 

  • SEL Andragogy. Targeted focus on the development of adult (teacher/staff/parent) emotional intelligence in program and curriculum design.

  • Content Expert Coaching. In-field coaching of your current Content Experts on classroom SEL strategies and implementation for product and program integration.

  • Product Alignment. Results based strategy focus on aligning current SEL frameworks to product structure — kickstarting approval process of SEL industry leaders.

  • Staff Development. Design and facilitate professional trainings, in-services, and Professional Learning Communities (PLCs) to support the understanding of social and emotional learning for current staff.

  • Professional Development. Design and facilitate branded professional trainings, in-services, and Professional Learning Communities (PLCs) to support social and emotional learning for staff, parents, and the community of your clients.


SCHOOLS AND DISTRICTS

If your school or district is implementing Social and Emotional Learning, then you are probably familiar with some of the terminology related to SEL development. While there are number of SEL frameworks, it is important that you as—administrators, educators, and families—develop a common or shared language to discuss, understand and leverage these skills within your own setting.

My expertise is in assisting you in providing direct support services to enhance and develop the social and emotional competence of students and the emotional quotient of teachers, staff, families and the community.

CONSULTATION SERVICES INCLUDE:

  • Needs Assessment. Including analysis of school climate data, and an assessment of social and emotional competencies.

  • MTSS/CPST/RtI. Promote social and emotional development of all students through prevention and/or interventions of barriers that interfere with the learning process.

  • SEL Implementation. Utilize a scaffolded approach of skills and lessons, integration of the curricula and classroom practices, and an environment of safety, respect, care, and inclusion which models SEL values.

  • Program Management. Collect, analyze and monitor data for program efficacy and efficiency. 

  • SEL Andragogy. Targeted focus on the development of adult emotional intelligence.

  • Teacher Coaching. 1:1 in-field coaching on classroom SEL strategies and implementation.

  • Professional Development. Design and facilitate professional trainings, in-services, and Professional Learning Communities (PLCs) to support social and emotional learning for staff, parents, and the community.


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Social & Emotional Learning 1:1 Coaching

As parents we provide 1:1 support for our children’s academic needs. What about their social and emotional needs? Therapy exists, but not every child needs therapy. 1:1 SEL Coaching is also a wonderful complement to child therapy. Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) coaching, has shown immediate improvements in mental health, social skills, and academic achievement, and continues to benefit students months and years beyond the engagement.

I work with children and teens (PreK-12) one-on-one, while targeting specifically identified areas of social and emotional development based on parent, teacher and child assessment data.

While SEL Coaching is not academic based, research indicates that students who participated in evidence-based SEL programs showed an 11 percentile-point gain in academic achievement compared to students who did not participate in SEL programs. Compared to students who did not participate in SEL programs, students participating in these programs also showed improved classroom behavior, an increased ability to manage stress and depression, and better attitudes about themselves, others, and school.

Default to Happy SEL Coaching is engaging, interactive, meaningful and most importantly FUN!

1:1 Coaching is available in-person and virtually.


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Social & Emotional Learning Group Sessions

Where children and teens come together to grow and learn in a socially and emotionally safe and enriched environment.

Similar to the 1:1 SEL Coaching service, SEL group sessions offer children and teens the ability to develop pro-social skills but in a small group setting. These sessions are ideal for groups of parents who want to provide their children with the skills needed for healthy social and emotional development and may also be looking for a less expensive option to individual coaching. Group sessions are ideal for community leaders who want an option for the youth in their area. Or perhaps you are a school, teacher, or district leader who wants to enhance SEL programmatic efforts in your school community. SEL group sessions are also the perfect fit for churches and other spiritual organizations looking to expand their personal development outreach.

I work with children and teens (PreK-12) in small group settings, while targeting specifically identified areas of social and emotional development based on parent, teacher and child assessment data.

While SEL Coaching is not academic based, research indicates that students who participated in evidence-based SEL programs showed an 11 percentile-point gain in academic achievement compared to students who did not participate in SEL programs. Compared to students who did not participate in SEL programs, students participating in these programs also showed improved classroom behavior, an increased ability to manage stress and depression, and better attitudes about themselves, others, and school.

Default to Happy SEL Coaching is engaging, interactive, meaningful and most importantly FUN!

Small Group Coaching is available in-person and virtually.


Parent Resources


 
 
 

Books for Parents

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
This book provides specific language and numerous examples of parent interactions to enhance parents’ communication and listening skills in a variety of challenging situations. It has the potential to create deeper connections and trust as parents use the skills with their children

Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen, Ed.D.
In this easy-to-read guide, Jane Nelsen coaches parents and teachers to be firm and kind so that any child from toddler to teenager can learn creative cooperation and self-discipline with no loss of dignity.

Positive Discipline for Preschoolers: For their Early Years – Raising Children Who are Responsible, Respectful, and Resourceful by Jane Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin, and Roslyn Duffy
Written as a quick reference guide, this book will teach you methods for raising a preschool-age child who is responsible, respectful, and resourceful by finding practical solutions to parenting challenges such as bedtime hassles, school problems, whining, and much more.

Making Grateful Kids: A Scientific Approach to Help Youth Thrive by Jeffrey Froh, Giacomo Bono
The authors introduce their most compelling research, announce groundbreaking findings, and share real-life stories to show parents, teachers, mentors, and kids how to achieve greater life satisfaction through gratitude. They offer many simple strategies for building habits of gratitude into day-to-day life and provide compelling evidence for its importance.

Managing Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes by William Bridges
The author spent his life working to understand changes. Whether you are going through the birth of a new baby, a move, a job change, or the death of a loved one, this book explains in simple terms how any person can understand the emotions they are undergoing, help ease the transition, and launch a new life.

Yardsticks: Children in the Classroom Ages 4-14 by Chip Wood
This comprehensive, user-friendly reference helps those who work with and love children use the knowledge of child development to shape classrooms and schools where all children can succeed by giving charts on development traits; physical, social, language, and cognitive growth patterns; and suggestions for curricular areas. Though the text is geared for educators, this is a good resource for parents who want to understand each age and stage of development.

Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain: An Inside-Out Guide to the Emerging Adolescent Mind, Ages 12-24 by Daniel J. Siegel
Written by a leading expert in brain science, this book sheds light on the often misunderstood yet critical time in children’s lives when they straddle childhood and adulthood but don’t fit squarely in either phase. Siegel characterizes the teen years as the most powerful life phase for activating courage, purpose, and creativity. He creates empathy for the teenage experience and helps parents understand how to work with and support their teenagers.

Parenting without Power Struggles: Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids While Staying Cool, Calm, and Connected by Susan Stiffelman
The author shows you how to awake your child’s natural instincts to cooperate by being the confident parent your child needs, teaching you how to parent from a place of strong, durable connection, and helping your child navigate the challenging moments of growing up. This is an excellent resource for any parent but particularly for those who find themselves in power struggles with their children.

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel
This book simplifies brain science to assist parents in teaching children about how their mind works and how they can practice emotional awareness and self-management.

Smart Parents: Parenting for Powerful Learning by Bonnie Lathram, Carri Schneider, and Tom Vander Ark
Packed with helpful guidance from more than 60 parents who are also experts in learning and/or education, this book prepares parents for powerful and significant contributions to children’s learning with practical tips.


Picture Books for Kids

The Way I Feel  by Janan Cain

Using strong, colorful and expressive images along with simple verses The Way I Feel helps children connect the word and the emotion.

The Way I Act  by Steve Metzger

The Way I Act explores thirteen ways of behaving. Friendly verses and bold illustrations convey positive ideas of how to act in a variety of situations.

Today I Feel Silly  by Jamie Lee Curtis

Silly, cranky, excited, or sad—everyone has moods that can change each day. And that’s okay! Follow the boisterous, bouncing protagonist as she explores her moods and how they change from day to day.

A Tale of Two Beasts  by Fiona Roberton

A little girl rescues a strange beast in the woods and carries him safely home.  But the beast is not happy and escapes! A funny and charming tale about seeing both sides of the story.

I Will Surprise My Friend!  by Mo Willems

In I Will Surprise My Friend!, Gerald and Piggie want to play a game and surprise each other-but the biggest surprise is the one they least expect.

The True Story of the Three Little Pigs  by Jon Scieszka

In this hysterical and clever fracture fairy tale picture book that twists point of view and perspective, young readers will finally hear the other side of the story of “The Three Little Pigs.”

Jonathan James and the What if Monster  by Michelle Nelson-Schmidt

Whenever Jonathan James finds himself in a new situation, he hears his Whatif Monster asking all kind of questions to stop him trying something new: What if it’s scary? What if they laugh? Finally, Jonathan James has some questions of his own: What if they don’t? What then?

I Am So Brave  by Steven Krensky

Whether it’s petting a dog or waving goodbye to a parent, Krensky and Gillingham address the “small wins” of growing just a little bit braver.

The Dot  by Peter H. Reynolds

This empowering tale emphasizes the artistic process, gently reminding the creative spirit in all of us that there is no wrong way to create.

Jabari Jumps  by Gaia Cornwall

In a sweetly appealing tale of overcoming your fears, Gaia Cornwall captures a moment between a patient and encouraging father and a determined little boy you can’t help but root for.

Enemy Pie  by Derek Munson

It was the perfect summer. That is until Jeremy Ross moved into the house down the street and became neighborhood enemy number one. Luckily Dad had a surefire way to get rid of enemies: Enemy Pie. But part of the secret recipe is spending an entire day playing with the enemy!

We Are All Wonders  by R.J. Palacio

We’re All Wonders may be Auggie’s story, but it taps into every child’s longing to belong, and to be seen for who they truly are. It’s the perfect way for families and educators to talk about empathy and kindness with young children.

Do Unto Otters  by Laurie Keller

In her smart, playful style Laurie Keller highlights how to be a good friend and neighbor—simply follow the Golden Rule!

What If Everybody Did That?  by Ellen Javernick

If you drop just one soda can out the window, it’s no big deal … right? But what if everybody did that? What if everybody broke the rules …

Not Norman  by Kelly Bennett

With wry humor and lighthearted affection, author Kelly Bennett and illustrator Noah Z. Jones tell an unexpected — and positively fishy — tale about finding the good in something you didn’t know
you wanted.